I’m with you….today and always. I know your fears. I know your pain. I know your doubts. I’ve felt the same misplaced shame. I’m walking the path you’re on. You’re not alone. I’m in front of you to guide, beside you to strengthen, and behind you in case you fall, as so many others have done for me. And, I am so, SO sorry for what you’ve endured. But, I want you to know it doesn’t have to be what endures. It doesn’t have to be what defines, confines, maligns, or resigns you to a life without joy. You are NOT what happened to you. You are strong. You are brave. You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are enough. You ARE a survivor. And, you matter. Yes, YOU….you matter!!! You deserve healing. You deserve to get your voice back. You deserve to break the shackles of shame and silence and secrecy. You deserve FREEDOM! I want you to know I believe you and I believe IN you, too. None of this was your fault. And, NONE of this has to be your future. You are capable of not only surviving, you are capable of thriving. You are capable of living a life of beauty despite the brokenness and a life of peace despite the pieces. And, that is my hope for you….a mind full of beauty and a soul full of peace – and, hope….always HOPE! Deep, deep breaths, courageous friend. You can do this. You can do this hard thing. You can overcome….just as you have already overcome much to get to this point so far. And, one day, you can write a letter just like this – a LOVE letter to other survivors, yes….but also to the one survivor who has lived within you all along. Take care of that precious one and take care of you too!
Love (and Hope!) Always,
Your Sister in Survival,
You don’t know me. We may not have a lot in common – maybe only one thing: We were raped. But I want you to know that I love you. I do not judge you. I do not pity you. I respect and admire and hurt for you. I understand your pain. But, I also know that you are stronger than you realize. You are an amazingly imperfect human being doing the best that you can to live your life. I love you so much that I want you to believe you can have a full life, an open life, a free life. You don’t have to do everything alone. You may be afraid to accept love and or you may not even be confident that you know what love is. But being brave is not being unafraid. Being brave is doing what needs to be done despite being afraid. And being brave can come in small steps, just like your healing. You are on a journey now, but you are not alone. I will be with you, loving you, believing and believing in you, and supporting you however you need it. We will make this journey together and it will be a beautiful up and down trip. I am grateful for you and love you infinitely and will not leave you.
I wanted to tell you to remember you are not alone. I thought I was for almost 29 years. I was so afraid to speak my truths until this year. I want you to remember that you are valuable. That you did not do anything to deserve this. Your life matters. I want you to remember that no one can steal from you the value you hold. And whether you were a child, or a young woman, This is not your fault. You are not labeled by your abuse. It does not take away the significance you hold. You are not only a survivor but You are a warrior!!! You have come this far and Your light still shines brightly. You are not what happened to you. You are not the rape. You are not the sexual abuse. You are not less then a woman. You are a beautiful gift and No one can take that piece of you away. I stand with you. Be proud of yourself. And remember you deserve to be loved, cared for, and protected, You are a warrior. I will always support you. I believe You and I believe in You. You are loved as you are. I am sorry for the pain you have endured. I just want you to remember that no matter how difficult things have been that you are Loved, You Matter, and You are Worthy. Most of all, I will stand by your side always.