Dear 14 year old me,  I see you. If I could go back in time as the adult I am now, I would help you. I would tell you that IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. I would tell you that I BELIEVE YOU. I would tell you that all those jerks who turned against you are WRONG. I would hug you. I would be a caring & trusting adult. I would REFER you to your local sexual assault agency. I would tell you your legal rights. I would tell you that reporting was NOT your only option. I would support whatever choice you made. I would comfort you. I would teach you about RAPE CULTURE. I would explain to you about VICTIM BLAMING and sexual harassment.  I would say I LOVE YOU.    Love, Me

Dear 14 year old me,

I see you. If I could go back in time as the adult I am now, I would help you. I would tell you that IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. I would tell you that I BELIEVE YOU. I would tell you that all those jerks who turned against you are WRONG. I would hug you. I would be a caring & trusting adult. I would REFER you to your local sexual assault agency. I would tell you your legal rights. I would tell you that reporting was NOT your only option. I would support whatever choice you made. I would comfort you. I would teach you about RAPE CULTURE. I would explain to you about VICTIM BLAMING and sexual harassment.

I would say I LOVE YOU.

Love,
Me

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