Dear Tani,  In high school your rape weighed heavily on my mind. The disruption of that act of violence carried tremendous tidal force- a real current of pain, deep loss and a shattering of life. Your rape was my earliest teacher about violence. But it was your survival that taught me about courage. It taught me about faith and determination. I witnessed you fighting everyday. You fought to get up to go to school. To face nightmares, loss, grief, trauma & doubt. These acts of courage can go unnoticed, but there can be no doubt that you undertook a hero’s journey. People who know you can easily behold your beauty, strength, power and a growing self-assuredness as you follow your path to heal others through story. These qualities I believe are intrinsic to your spirit- but they are also hard-won. They are the result of going into the depths of your own pain with courage and determination to find a way to keep living. There are a few things that I love about you: You inspire me through the way you live your life Your purpose Your radical authenticity Your coolness Your grace  Your goofiness Your true friendship. My life has been enriched so immensely by your friendship– what else can I say with words.  All my love, Laney

Dear Tani,

In high school your rape weighed heavily on my mind. The disruption of that act of violence carried tremendous tidal force- a real current of pain, deep loss and a shattering of life. Your rape was my earliest teacher about violence.
But it was your survival that taught me about courage. It taught me about faith and determination.
I witnessed you fighting everyday. You fought to get up to go to school. To face nightmares, loss, grief, trauma & doubt.
These acts of courage can go unnoticed, but there can be no doubt that you undertook a hero’s journey.
People who know you can easily behold your beauty, strength, power and a growing self-assuredness as you follow your path to heal others through story. These qualities I believe are intrinsic to your spirit- but they are also hard-won. They are the result of going into the depths of your own pain with courage and determination to find a way to keep living.
There are a few things that I love about you:
You inspire me through the way you live your life
Your purpose
Your radical authenticity
Your coolness
Your grace
Your goofiness
Your true friendship.
My life has been enriched so immensely by your friendship– what else can I say with words.

All my love,
Laney

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